Men—How to Recognize a Real One

Fellas, there was no way I was going to forget about you. I know we need love, too, so I wanted to continue this conversation about how to recognize a real one and specifically tailor it to you.

If you’re reading this, it’s necessary to read part one first to bring part two full circle, because all of these ideologies are universal in regards to character and recognition of a quality relationship.

For all the men that want a concubine or a gang of hoes, there are plenty of other men looking for one quality woman to give their undivided attention to. Believe me when I tell you, a man will go to great lengths to be with the woman of his dreams. He’ll sacrifice a lot for her, if not everything. He just needs to know that she is the one for him.

Men are simplistic creatures. Fundamentally, we’re built upon the basic principles of provision, protection and procreation. Dating is tough for both men and women, especially in this generation, but more often than not, men have to be the initiator in order to get the ball rolling in—we have to spark the first conversation, we have to take a woman on the first date. Society is set up for us to make all of the first moves with the hopes of women being inclined to entertain our presence. Sounds like a lot, but we’re men and we love the chase and are predisposed conquerors, so we’re always going to go after what we want. With all that being said, fellas I want to try to help you work smarter not harder in order to recognize a real one.

She Believes In You: There are a lot of men that are looking for a submissive woman, but a real woman is not going to submit unless you’ve shown her something to believe in. That’s gospel. If you’re firm with your visions and goals and have the ambition to achieve them, the right woman will be your biggest supporter. She will believe in you as a man and want to grow with you.

She Challenges You: You may think you’re at the top of your game until you meet a real one. Her actions and disposition are going to challenge you to be a better version of yourself. By no means is she attempting to change your character, but her presence surely brings out the best in you. You are a reflection of the five people you spend the most time with. If your girl is up there, and she should be, then remember she is a direct reflection of you.

She’s Emotionally Consistent: We understand that emotions can run wild, but she understands herself, her triggers and what areas she may be weak. By knowing herself, she can articulate how she feels. She’s not the jealous type and is secure with the position in your life. Let’s be clear, as a man your actions towards her will help balance these sentiments, but a woman that is in tune with her emotions is a real one.

She Has Your Back: A real one is down to ride, but loyalty has an expiration date if you’re not appreciative of her having your back or acknowledging her devotion. A woman is a natural incubator and what you give her is what will be birthed, literally and figuratively. A woman that keeps her word and is reliable, as well as dependable, is a blessing that should not be taken lightly. It’s difficult to find people in life that have an unwavering loyalty, so when you find those people, it’s in your best interest to keep them in your life for as long as humanly possible.

She Respects You: “Respect is not expected, but it’s given cause it’s real.” Respect is everything and if she respects you, all of these other principles come with the territory. No relationship is perfect, but she’ll be accountable for her actions whether she was right or wrong. She’s always going to come clean, allowing you to be who you currently are and who you are aspiring to be. In dealing with her, you’ll always be able to communicate and resolve issues that arise because she respects you as a person and as a man.

With that being said, if you find a woman that has all these qualities, do yourself a solid, lock her down, buy her a ring and live happily ever after!

My name is Jacky Wright and I approve this message.

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