“If They Wanted You, Wouldn’t They Have Chosen You?”–Warsan Shire

Hey guys, I know. Long time, no talk. Or read. Whatever. I don’t really have much to say. That’s not true actually, there’s always something to say, but I’m not sure what to say. That’s more accurate.

Anyway, I’ve been reading a lot of Warsan Shire lately. She’s a poet that I’m obsessed with and I actually posted one of her videos on the blog once before [“For Women Who Are Difficult to Love”]. I came across another one of her poems that really resonated with me. Seriously, I started crying. I connected with every word, and therefore, I’m going to share it with you.

Here it is:

“how far have you walked for men who’ve never held your feet in their laps?
how often have you bartered with bone, only to sell yourself short?
why do you find the unavailable so alluring?
where did it begin? what went wrong? and who made you feel so worthless?
if they wanted you, wouldn’t they have chosen you?
all this time, you were begging for love silently, thinking they couldn’t hear you, but they smelt it on you, you must have known that they could taste the desperate on your skin?
and what about the others that would do anything for you, why did you make them love you until you could not stand it?
how are you both of these women, both flighty and needful?
where did you learn this, to want what does not want you?
where did you learn this, to leave those that want to stay?”

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